My thoughts: Women - Crime

Women in India are categorized by youth/men into two types - One who is worthy of respect (Family/friends/who carry themselves in accordance with their expectations of an Ideal Indian woman) and other who is a subject of entertainment (everyone else who are not aligned with one's perception of a dignified lady/one who contradics the status quo in any form). And these perceptions though have a broad common standard, do differ narrowly based on social class. Its concerning to me as my perception completely differs from the generally accepted. I feel irrespective of anything, everyone deserves to be respected. Why do we type cast women or men for say according to their choice of lifestyle or dressing or opinion? Why do we need a woman to talk, dress or behave like our mothers/sisters to respect her?

Right from childhood, we are taught to respect the women in our family. Very often to show affection, sympathy or emapathy, one needs to compare with someone in the family - She is like your mother or someone's mother or sister. It is a great culture in one way, that we are being trained to see every other woman as a mother or sister but what if a woman does not dress or behave like our mother or sister? does she not deserve respect? and one looks at her with lustful intentions? excuse me but there are women who may not relate to any woman in your family but are great human beings! I have heard men say - "Ye toh na meri ma jaise dhikthi hai na meri behan lagthi hai" There has to be a greater education than this compare and respect theme. Though we cannot relate to another individual, we need to understand, learn and respect the beauty in these differences - acknowledge that the world is colorful because we are all different! Look at an attractive woman, respect her for whatever she is rather that what is expected to be. Even if she chooses never to be a mother or even if she does not have any siblings and even if she does not relate to the women we know in anyway. 

I await the day when everyone stops forming staunch perceptions about how others need to be. When we can see others differences and still accept them as they are with respect and affection, that is when we will not need women to look like the women in our house to treat them right and men to be the men in our house to feel secure. 

Though this may sound off topic It is not in reality - I feel somewhere we need to stop swearing and abusing each other using words or phrases involving women/private parts. For me, If I say something it lingers in my mind for sometime and then it transceneds to some of my actions. Is this cycle not the same for everyone? do we not become what we say and think? The sinister thoughts and words may breed in one's mind and eventually become actions under the influence of alcohol/drugs/chemical high's in ones body - anger, frustration, depression etc. Our usage of words have become so poor that lately it is becoming difficult to differentiate beauty with sexiness. This is certainly contributing to the crime in today's society in some level. I have rarely seen a teenager or a man in his prime describe any good looking girl (other than his wife/girlfriend) as beautiful. All they say is hot/sexy. People who rape/abuse women, women who are being raped/abused are not only the ones who are caught!, there numerous others who live a very normal everyday life but have done heinous things and have survived unimaginable acts that have been burried away from media and society at large due to various reasons.At least 99% of the crime is done by people that are not mentally ill - meaning mind is operating at some level, and it is having its feed thorugh time and society.  I strongly feel that we need to kill every means that generates filth in one's mind. Please stop abusing each other and even friends with words that do not need to be used. Reflect on a culture that we are proud of and want our genaration and the generations to come to be a part of. I deeply sypathize for the victims of crime and am certainly not among the ones who wait until it hits someone I personally know. I belive in action more than words. Words are my means to action and hence these above.